{"id":4526,"date":"2012-06-10T08:20:52","date_gmt":"2012-06-10T06:20:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/?p=4526"},"modified":"2012-06-10T08:21:30","modified_gmt":"2012-06-10T06:21:30","slug":"obavy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/?p=4526","title":{"rendered":"Obavy"},"content":{"rendered":"

Anselm Gr\u00fcn<\/em><\/p>\n

…Nej\u010dast\u011bji se setk\u00e1v\u00e1m s fenom\u00e9nem existen\u010dn\u00edho strachu.<\/p>\n

Mnoz\u00ed z\u00a0n\u00e1s reaguj\u00ed na hrozbu ztr\u00e1ty existen\u010dn\u00edho zaji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed ur\u010ditou pasivn\u00ed strategi\u00ed. Potla\u010duj\u00ed sv\u016fj strach o zaji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed \u017eivota a prohla\u0161uj\u00ed, \u017ee zase bude l\u00e9pe. V \u0161upl\u00edku se jim tak hromad\u00ed neotev\u0159en\u00e1 korespondence s \u00fa\u010dty a upom\u00ednkami. Jen\u017ee potla\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed nedok\u00e1\u017ee nikoho trvale zbavit existen\u010dn\u00edho strachu. Ten \u010dlov\u011bka su\u017euje d\u00e1le. Doty\u010dn\u00fd se za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 obt\u00ed\u017en\u00fdm situac\u00edm podrobovat, c\u00edt\u00ed se u\u0161tvan\u00fd a zni\u010den\u00fd. Proto je lep\u0161\u00ed vyvinout aktivn\u00ed strategii: Pod\u00edvat se strachu v\u011bdom\u011b do o\u010d\u00ed a zareagovat na n\u011bj. Nejprve to ov\u0161em znamen\u00e1 ud\u011blat krok stranou, z\u00edskat od strachu odstup, analyzovat vlastn\u00ed obt\u00ed\u017enou situaci a za\u010d\u00edt p\u00e1trat po budouc\u00edm \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed.<\/p>\n

P\u0159i hovoru s\u00a0mana\u017eery a mana\u017eerkami se opakovan\u011b setk\u00e1v\u00e1m s\u00a0dal\u0161\u00edm druhem strachu, j\u00edm\u017e je strach ze ztr\u00e1ty sebekontroly. Vedouc\u00ed pracovn\u00edci sami sob\u011b v\u0161t\u011bpuj\u00ed, \u017ee se mus\u00ed za v\u0161ech okolnost\u00ed ovl\u00e1dat. Sna\u017e\u00ed se kontrolovat sv\u00e9 emoce. Bylo by p\u0159ece p\u0159\u00edmo trapn\u00e9, kdyby je v\u00a0r\u00e1mci n\u011bjak\u00e9 diskuse neudr\u017eeli na uzd\u011b. Navenek cht\u011bj\u00ed v\u017edycky p\u016fsobit sebejist\u011b, jak se dnes \u0159\u00edk\u00e1, \u201ecool\u201c. Nikdo by nem\u011bl vytu\u0161it jejich slabiny. Strach ze ztr\u00e1ty kontroly se ov\u0161em m\u016f\u017ee vztahovat i na jejich vztahy uvnit\u0159 firmy nebo odd\u011blen\u00ed. Proto cht\u011bj\u00ed za v\u0161ech okolnost\u00ed v\u017edycky v\u011bd\u011bt v\u0161echno, co se pr\u00e1v\u011b na jejich pracovn\u00edm \u00faseku d\u011bje. Jakmile za\u010dnou n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed jejich spolupracovn\u00edci vyjad\u0159ovat svou nespokojenost, okam\u017eit\u011b maj\u00ed dojem, \u017ee se jim situace vymyk\u00e1 z\u00a0rukou. V\u0161echno by se mohlo zvrtnout. Okam\u017eit\u011b propadaj\u00ed strachu, \u017ee by mohli ztratit vl\u00e1du nad ud\u00e1lostmi a \u017ee by se v\u0161echno mohlo zhroutit.<\/p>\n

Jak zach\u00e1z\u00edm se strachem? Nesm\u00edm jej potla\u010dovat, ale na druh\u00e9 stran\u011b mu tak\u00e9 nesm\u00edm p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 pop\u0159\u00e1t sluchu. Jinak m\u011b zcela ovl\u00e1dne. Prvn\u00ed krok, kter\u00fd bych m\u011bl podniknout, je p\u0159iznat si jej a p\u0159ijmout jej jako sou\u010d\u00e1st vlastn\u00ed existence. Setk\u00e1v\u00e1m se s\u00a0mana\u017eery, kte\u0159\u00ed se domn\u00edvaj\u00ed, \u017ee jsou nemocn\u00ed, proto\u017ee je su\u017euje strach. Domn\u00edvaj\u00ed se, \u017ee jako vedouc\u00ed pracovn\u00edci na n\u011bj prost\u011b nemaj\u00ed n\u00e1rok a \u017ee ten, kdo trp\u00ed strachem, p\u0159ece nedok\u00e1\u017ee nikoho spr\u00e1vn\u011b v\u00e9st. Jen\u017ee podobn\u011b my\u0161lenky se brzy odhal\u00ed jako nelidsk\u00e9. Strach toti\u017e k\u00a0\u010dlov\u011bku pat\u0159\u00ed. Kdyby \u010dlov\u011bk nikdy nem\u011bl strach, nem\u011bl by ani spr\u00e1vn\u00e9 m\u011b\u0159\u00edtko k\u00a0posuzov\u00e1n\u00ed skute\u010dnosti. Tak\u00e9 by bezhlav\u011b investoval a sv\u00e9voln\u011b zach\u00e1zel se sv\u00fdm \u010dasem i silami. Strach m\u00e1 v\u017edycky sv\u016fj v\u00fdznam. M\u011bli bychom se nau\u010dit vych\u00e1zet s\u00a0n\u00edm p\u0159\u00e1telsky. P\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm bychom v\u0161ak m\u011bli p\u0159estat pokl\u00e1dat sami sebe za nemocn\u00e9 jen proto, \u017ee se n\u011b\u010deho boj\u00edme. Strach m\u00e1 pr\u00e1vo na existenci a je dob\u0159e, \u017ee tu je.<\/p>\n

Kdo si strach zakazuje, \u010dasto propad\u00e1 panice. Dost\u00e1v\u00e1 se do bludn\u00e9ho kruhu. M\u00e1 strach, \u017ee se bude b\u00e1t, a t\u00edm jej n\u00e1sob\u00ed. Naproti tomu dialog s\u00a0vlastn\u00edm strachem \u010dasto u\u017e s\u00e1m sob\u011b zp\u016fsob\u00ed, \u017ee se obavy zmen\u0161\u00ed. Ka\u017ed\u00fd p\u0159itom dok\u00e1\u017ee hovo\u0159it s\u00a0vlastn\u00edm strachem, jako by to byla osoba. Strach pak z\u00edsk\u00e1 konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed tv\u00e1\u0159, a t\u00edm ztr\u00e1c\u00ed svou v\u0161udyp\u0159\u00edtomnou moc. To je druh\u00fd krok. Sv\u00e9ho strachu bychom se tak nap\u0159\u00edklad mohli zeptat:<\/p>\n

Komu jsi ur\u010den?
\nKoho nebo \u010deho bych se m\u011bl podle tebe b\u00e1t?
\nCo v\u0161echno by se mohlo st\u00e1t?
\nV\u00a0jak\u00fdch situac\u00edch se objevuje\u0161?
\nS\u00edl\u00ed\u0161, kdy\u017e jsem p\u0159eta\u017een\u00fd a p\u0159epracovan\u00fd?
\nZn\u00e1m tv\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edznaky? Dok\u00e1\u017eu se jim br\u00e1nit?
\nM\u00e1m strach, \u017ee se budu b\u00e1t?<\/p>\n

T\u0159et\u00ed krok spo\u010d\u00edv\u00e1 v\u00a0rozpozn\u00e1n\u00ed p\u0159\u00ed\u010din strachu. Mohou b\u00fdt jeho spou\u0161t\u011bdlem negativn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti z\u00a0d\u011btstv\u00ed? Jsou mezi n\u00e1mi lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed byli v\u00a0d\u011btstv\u00ed opu\u0161t\u011bni. Jakmile jim nyn\u00ed hroz\u00ed n\u011bjak\u00e1 ztr\u00e1ta, jejich n\u011bkdej\u0161\u00ed strach se okam\u017eit\u011b p\u0159ihl\u00e1s\u00ed o slovo a zcela je ovl\u00e1dne. Jindy m\u016f\u017ee j\u00edt o fale\u0161n\u00e9 \u017eivotn\u00ed z\u00e1sady. Mnou\u00ed se boj\u00ed, \u017ee se znemo\u017en\u00ed nebo \u017ee se dopust\u00ed chyby, proto\u017ee v\u00a0sob\u011b zakonzervovali z\u00e1sadu: \u201eNesm\u00edm ud\u011blat \u017e\u00e1dnou chybu, jinak bych za nic nest\u00e1l. Nesm\u00edm se ztrapnit, jinak by se mi vysm\u00e1li, pokl\u00e1dali by m\u011b za bl\u00e1zna a za nemocn\u00e9ho.\u201c Zkusme tedy vyslovit tyto z\u00e1sady nahlas sami p\u0159ed sebou, a u\u017e p\u0159i vyslovov\u00e1n\u00ed si za\u010dneme uv\u011bdomovat, \u017ee nejsou pravdiv\u00e9 – pak je tak\u00e9 dok\u00e1\u017eeme opustit.<\/p>\n

\u010ctvrt\u00fdm krokem p\u0159i zvl\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed strachu, je p\u0159iznat s\u00e1m p\u0159ed sebou, \u010deho se vlastn\u011b boj\u00edm. P\u0159itom si ve fantazii vyl\u00ed\u010d\u00edm, co v\u0161echno by se stalo, kdyby skute\u010dn\u011b do\u0161lo k\u00a0ud\u00e1losti, kter\u00e1 mi nah\u00e1n\u00ed strach. Nap\u0159\u00edklad ud\u011bl\u00e1m chybu. Shod\u00edm se: P\u0159e\u0159eknu se. Ztrat\u00edm nit hovoru. Pak se za\u010dnu pt\u00e1t: A je to skute\u010dn\u011b tak hrozn\u00e9? Co by se vlastn\u011b mohlo st\u00e1t? Mo\u017en\u00e1 m\u011b \u0161\u00e9f pok\u00e1r\u00e1. Ale z\u00e1vis\u00ed na tom skute\u010dn\u011b cel\u00e1 moje existence? Co je pro m\u011b ur\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed? Co si o mn\u011b mysl\u00ed ostatn\u00ed lid\u00e9? Co si o mn\u011b mysl\u00ed B\u016fh?<\/p>\n

N\u011bkdo jin\u00fd zase m\u016f\u017ee trp\u011bt strachem z\u00a0toho, \u017ee bude na sch\u016fzi nejist\u00fd, \u017ee se za\u010dne potit a \u017ee se mu budou t\u0159\u00e1st ruce. Spot\u0159ebuje spoustu energie na to, aby zvl\u00e1dl pocen\u00ed a t\u0159es. Ale v\u00a0okam\u017eiku, kdy tyto v\u011bci s\u00e1m sob\u011b dovol\u00ed, se jich p\u0159estane b\u00e1t. \u010clov\u011bk se p\u0159ece m\u016f\u017ee zpotit. Ka\u017ed\u00fd z\u00a0n\u00e1s m\u00e1 pocity a sm\u00ed je projevit. Sm\u00ed prozradit vlastn\u00ed nejistotu.P\u0159ipustit si strach v\u0161ak nen\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd lacin\u00fd trik. V\u00a0jeho z\u00e1kladu toti\u017e spo\u010d\u00edv\u00e1 jin\u00fd, pravdiv\u011bj\u0161\u00ed obraz vlastn\u00edho j\u00e1.U\u017e nejde o n\u011bjak\u00fd nelidsk\u00fd ide\u00e1l, kter\u00fd si \u010dlov\u011bk pro sebe vyb\u00e1j\u00ed, ale o obraz lidsk\u00e9 bytosti, kter\u00e1 sm\u00ed b\u00fdt takov\u00e1, jak\u00e1 je, a kter\u00e1 je dobr\u00e1 i tehdy, kdy\u017e projev\u00ed sv\u00e9 slabosti.<\/p>\n

P\u00e1t\u00fdm krokem p\u0159i zach\u00e1zen\u00ed se strachem je domyslet jej a\u017e do konce. P\u0159izn\u00e1m si: \u201eAno, boj\u00edm se, \u017ee zklamu. Boj\u00edm se nemoci a smrti.\u201c Nezastav\u00edm se u toho a pokra\u010duji d\u00e1l. P\u0159edstav\u00edm si, \u017ee i se v\u0161emi sv\u00fdmi zklam\u00e1n\u00edmi,nemocemi a smrt\u00ed spo\u010d\u00edv\u00e1m v\u00a0dobrotiv\u00e9 Bo\u017e\u00ed dlani. Nejde o to, abych se do\u010dista zbavil strachu, ale o to, abych se d\u00edky n\u011bmu dok\u00e1zal obr\u00e1tit k\u00a0Bohu. Jakmile si do d\u016fsledku domysl\u00edm, \u010deho se boj\u00edm, uk\u00e1\u017ee se mi nakonec z\u00e1klad m\u00e9ho byt\u00ed, tedy to, na \u010dem zakl\u00e1d\u00e1m svou identitu: zjev\u00ed se mi B\u016fh, kter\u00fd je nejhlub\u0161\u00edm z\u00e1kladem m\u00e9 existence. Uk\u00e1\u017ee mi, co je v\u00a0m\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b skute\u010dn\u011b nosn\u00e9. Proti strachu mi nepom\u016f\u017ee \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e1 z\u00e1zra\u010dn\u00e1 metoda. Stejn\u011b tak nepom\u016f\u017eou lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed se o mn\u011b vyjad\u0159uj\u00ed pochvaln\u011b, ani ti nemohou b\u00fdt z\u00e1kladem a oporou m\u00e9ho \u017eivota. Ten nejhlub\u0161\u00ed nosn\u00fd z\u00e1klad m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt jedin\u00fd – B\u016fh.<\/p>\n

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(dokon\u010den\u00ed p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011b)<\/em><\/p>\n

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Anselm Gr\u00fcn …Nej\u010dast\u011bji se setk\u00e1v\u00e1m s fenom\u00e9nem existen\u010dn\u00edho strachu. Mnoz\u00ed z\u00a0n\u00e1s reaguj\u00ed na hrozbu ztr\u00e1ty existen\u010dn\u00edho zaji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed ur\u010ditou pasivn\u00ed strategi\u00ed. Potla\u010duj\u00ed sv\u016fj strach o zaji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed \u017eivota a prohla\u0161uj\u00ed, \u017ee zase bude l\u00e9pe. V \u0161upl\u00edku se jim tak hromad\u00ed neotev\u0159en\u00e1 korespondence s \u00fa\u010dty a upom\u00ednkami. Jen\u017ee potla\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed nedok\u00e1\u017ee nikoho trvale zbavit existen\u010dn\u00edho strachu. Ten \u010dlov\u011bka su\u017euje […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,13],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4526"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4526"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4526\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4528,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4526\/revisions\/4528"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4526"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4526"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4526"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}