{"id":856,"date":"2008-08-05T10:19:29","date_gmt":"2008-08-05T09:19:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/?p=856"},"modified":"2012-10-13T18:24:22","modified_gmt":"2012-10-13T16:24:22","slug":"tram-v-oku","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/?p=856","title":{"rendered":"Tr\u00e1m v oku"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A. Cencini<\/p>\n<p>Naz\u00fdvali je <em>whipping boys<\/em>. \u017dili v minul\u00fdch stolet\u00edch na dvorech anglick\u00fdch kr\u00e1l\u016f. Pat\u0159ili k neju\u017e\u0161\u00edmu doprovodu kr\u00e1lova syna a m\u011bli i tento podivn\u00fd \u00fakol: kdykoli princ u\u010dinil n\u011bjak\u00fd proh\u0159e\u0161ek, byli trest\u00e1ni ranami bi\u010dem m\u00edsto n\u011bho. Tak byla vina n\u011bjak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem odpyk\u00e1na. V\u011bc, kter\u00e1 se mohla st\u00e1t snad jen v d\u0159\u00edv\u011bj\u0161\u00edch dob\u00e1ch, absurdn\u00ed a barbarsk\u00e1; a p\u0159ece se zrovna v\u010dera stalo v jednom spole\u010denstv\u00ed tot\u00e9\u017e. \u017d\u00e1dn\u00ed princov\u00e9 ani r\u00e1ny bi\u010dem, pochopiteln\u011b, ale p\u0159esn\u011b tat\u00e1\u017e intrapsychick\u00e1 operace, <em>kter\u00e1 podv\u011bdom\u011b nut\u00ed ur\u010dit\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka, jen\u017e se dopust\u00ed chyby nebo konstatuje n\u011bjak\u00fd limit a nechce ho p\u0159ijmout, \u201ep\u0159en\u00e9st\u201c vinu a trest na n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho<\/em>. Je to star\u00fd a infantiln\u00ed mechanismus projekce. Dal\u0161\u00ed forma neintegrovan\u00e9ho zla.<br \/>\n<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Projekce je velice primitivn\u00edm mechanismem, kter\u00fdm se \u010dlov\u011bk osvobozuje od sv\u00e9 viny a d\u00e1v\u00e1 ji druh\u00fdm. Ka\u017ed\u00fd z n\u00e1s byl alespo\u0148 n\u011bkdy v \u017eivot\u011b v poku\u0161en\u00ed tohoto mechanismu vyu\u017e\u00edt. Mo\u017en\u00e1 bychom mohli \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee projekce je p\u0159\u00ed\u010dinou mnoha probl\u00e9m\u016f a pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed v na\u0161ich komunit\u00e1ch.<br \/>\nCo stoj\u00ed na po\u010d\u00e1tku projekce vlastn\u00ed \u0161patnosti do druh\u00fdch? Na jedn\u00e9 stran\u011b je to strach z vlastn\u00edho h\u0159\u00edchu, kter\u00fd n\u00e1s tak \u010dasto nut\u00ed ho ignorovat; na stran\u011b druh\u00e9 je to pocit, \u017ee budeme moci l\u00e9pe bojovat s n\u011b\u010d\u00edm, co je vn\u011b na\u0161\u00ed osobnosti a co se j\u00ed p\u0159\u00edmo nedot\u00fdk\u00e1: tehdy \u010dlov\u011bk \u201eprojikuje\u201c \u010di prom\u00edt\u00e1, tzn. obvi\u0148uje, soud\u00ed a \u010dasto odsuzuje, odm\u00edt\u00e1, pohrd\u00e1\u2026 Tak nabude dojmu, \u017ee ud\u011blal n\u011bco proti tomuto zlu a neuv\u011bdomuje si, \u017ee zach\u00e1z\u00ed-li s n\u00edm t\u00edmto zp\u016fsobem, zlo mu pak komplikuje a nejsp\u00ed\u0161 i ni\u010d\u00ed mezilidsk\u00e9 vztahy a v\u016fbec nen\u00ed z jeho \u017eivota odstran\u011bno.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ob\u011btn\u00ed kozel<\/strong><br \/>\nPrvn\u00ed a neklasi\u010dt\u011bj\u0161\u00ed formou projekce je <em>p\u0159isuzov\u00e1n\u00ed jist\u00fdch cit\u016f, \u00famysl\u016f a postoj\u016f v\u00e1zan\u00fdch na vlastn\u00ed nevyzr\u00e1lost n\u011bjak\u00e9 konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed osob\u011b<\/em>. Jako by se ten druh\u00fd stal n\u011bjak\u00fdm projek\u010dn\u00edm pl\u00e1tnem nebo pohodlnou n\u00e1dr\u017e\u00ed, do kter\u00e9 m\u016f\u017eeme odhodit ve\u0161kerou svou negativitu, vinu nebo ty str\u00e1nky sv\u00e9ho j\u00e1, kter\u00e9 nep\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1me nebo kter\u00e9 jsme nepojali do sv\u00e9 identity. Tr\u00e1m v na\u0161em oku n\u00e1m br\u00e1n\u00ed, abychom si pov\u0161imli, \u017ee to, proti \u010demu broj\u00edme u druh\u00fdch, je zat\u00edm na\u0161\u00edm vlastnictv\u00edm a \u017ee nevn\u00edm\u00e1me ani sebe ani toho druh\u00e9ho pravdiv\u011b. Jak si ale tuto projekci uv\u011bdomit? Existuj\u00ed n\u011bkter\u00e1 znamen\u00ed, kter\u00e1 na tento proces poukazuj\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>1) <em>Tvrdost a opakov\u00e1n\u00ed soudu<\/em>, kter\u00fd druh\u00e9mu nech\u00e1v\u00e1 mal\u00e9 nebo \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 nad\u011bje na mo\u017enost polep\u0161en\u00ed. Skoro by se zd\u00e1lo, \u017ee doty\u010dn\u00fd \u201epot\u0159ebuje\u201c, aby ten druh\u00fd byl prost\u011b takov\u00fd a nemohl se zm\u011bnit (aby mohl z\u016fstat v sebeklamu, \u017ee \u201eje to jeho probl\u00e9m, ne m\u016fj\u201c), co\u017e jako d\u016fsledek p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed vnucov\u00e1n\u00ed odpov\u00eddaj\u00edc\u00edho chov\u00e1n\u00ed. Je toti\u017e zn\u00e1mo, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1 sklon provokovat ty, kdo mu jsou nabl\u00edzku, aby se chovali p\u0159esn\u011b podle p\u0159edstavy, kterou si o nich ud\u011blal.<\/p>\n<p>2) <em>Zv\u00fd\u0161en\u00e1 nesn\u00e1\u0161enlivost v\u016f\u010di druh\u00e9mu.<\/em> Ji\u017e pouh\u00e1 jeho p\u0159\u00edtomnost je otravn\u00e1, a\u017e u\u017e d\u011bl\u00e1 cokoliv (\u201evad\u00ed mi i to, jak mluv\u00ed\u201c). Tato nesn\u00e1\u0161enlivost vrchol\u00ed otev\u0159en\u00fdmi antipatiemi (kter\u00e9 n\u011bjak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem sami p\u0159ed sebou ospravedln\u00edme) a zlost\u00ed v\u00edce \u010di m\u00e9n\u011b d\u00e1vanou najevo (a to je znamen\u00edm, \u017ee probl\u00e9m nen\u00ed ani v nejmen\u0161\u00edm vy\u0159e\u0161en a zlo v\u016fbec nen\u00ed eliminov\u00e1no).<\/p>\n<p>3) <em>P\u0159\u00edli\u0161 snadn\u00e9 a rychl\u00e9 odsuzov\u00e1n\u00ed<\/em>, kter\u00e9 je v\u00fdrazem podv\u011bdom\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed vyv\u00e1znout beze \u0161kod a \u00fapln\u011b se osvobodit od zla: odsuzujeme ho v druh\u00e9m \u010dlov\u011bku a d\u011bl\u00e1me si iluze, \u017ee jsme ho porazili a odsunuli. V\u011bt\u0161inou je toto odsuzov\u00e1n\u00ed hodn\u011b p\u0159\u00edsn\u00e9, bez odvol\u00e1n\u00ed a d\u00e1v\u00e1me mu r\u00e1doby prorock\u00fd r\u00e1z.<\/p>\n<p>Typick\u00fdm projevem t\u00e9to prvn\u00ed formy projekce je, \u017ee si vybereme ob\u011btn\u00edho kozla: vezmeme si na mu\u0161ku n\u011bjak\u00e9ho \u010dlena ze spole\u010denstv\u00ed a vytrvale ho obvi\u0148ujeme z jeho i z na\u0161ich vin. Mo\u017en\u00e1 \u017ee to je opravdu n\u011bjak\u00fd m\u00e9n\u011b siln\u00fd bratr, kter\u00fd chybuje v\u00edc ne\u017e ostatn\u00ed; nebo snad jeho chyby jsou \u2013 na rozd\u00edl od chyb t\u011bch druh\u00fdch \u2013 evidentn\u00ed, p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 dob\u0159e viditeln\u00e9\u2026 Kdy\u017e je takov\u00fd bratr ter\u010dem projekce, stane se z n\u011bho ten, kdo st\u00e1le chybuje a v\u016fbec nic nech\u00e1pe, kdo brzd\u00ed spole\u010dn\u00fd r\u016fst, proto\u017ee m\u00e1 tu nebo onu vadu. Nikdy se nepolep\u0161\u00ed a bylo by l\u00e9pe, kdyby byl p\u0159elo\u017een jinam\u2026<br \/>\nP\u0159ed \u010dasem jsem poznal jednoho \u0159eholn\u00edka, kter\u00fd m\u011bl pr\u00e1v\u011b toto \u201echarisma\u201c: utvo\u0159it si ob\u011btn\u00edho kozla v ka\u017ed\u00e9 komunit\u011b, j\u00ed\u017e pro\u0161el (a pro\u0161el jich n\u011bkolik). Zaj\u00edmav\u00e9 je, \u017ee brat\u0159i, je\u017e si bral na mu\u0161ku tento\u2026 \u201eterorista\u201c \u017eivota ve spole\u010denstv\u00ed, si byli navz\u00e1jem podobn\u00ed a d\u016fvody, pro\u010d je obvi\u0148oval, byly zhruba stejn\u00e9. Byly to tyt\u00e9\u017e nezralosti, kter\u00e9 on s\u00e1m nejen nem\u011bl vy\u0159e\u0161en\u00e9, ale u sebe je ani neuzn\u00e1val. Jist\u011b\u017ee takov\u00fd ob\u011btn\u00ed kozel m\u00e1 \u2013 alespo\u0148 teoreticky \u2013 p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost st\u00e1t se svat\u00fdm, um\u00ed-li toti\u017e vz\u00edt v\u011bci za spr\u00e1vn\u00fd konec, ale mohl by se dostat i do v\u00e1\u017en\u00e9 deprese nebo b\u00fdt dohn\u00e1n k nerozv\u00e1\u017en\u00fdm reakc\u00edm. Bude tedy l\u00e9pe, kdy\u017e se rozhodneme doj\u00edt svatosti jinou cestou a spole\u010dn\u011b a kdy\u017e za\u010dneme t\u00edm, \u017ee si ka\u017ed\u00fd ponech\u00e1me sv\u00e9 vlastn\u00ed \u0161patnosti.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ob\u011btn\u00ed skupina<\/strong><br \/>\nDal\u0161\u00ed mo\u017enou formou projekce je odkl\u00e1dat podv\u011bdom\u011b svou negativitu na skupinu. Nen\u00ed tedy nezbytn\u011b nutn\u00e1 jedna konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed osoba, kter\u00e1 se stane ter\u010dem projekce. Stejn\u011b dob\u0159e poslou\u017e\u00ed i skupina osob, jako nap\u0159\u00edklad vlastn\u00ed komunita nebo \u201eti druz\u00ed\u201c, vlastn\u00ed kongregace nebo t\u0159eba struktury. P\u0159edm\u011btem tohoto typu projekce m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt dokonce sv\u011bt, spole\u010dnost nebo n\u011bjak\u00e1 kategorie lid\u00ed (nap\u0159. \u201eh\u0159\u00ed\u0161n\u00edci\u201c). Nejde tedy tolik o techniku projekce jako sp\u00ed\u0161e o styl \u017eivota ovl\u00e1dan\u00fd projekc\u00ed. Tato projekce se m\u016f\u017ee projevovat v t\u011bchto r\u016fzn\u00fdch podob\u00e1ch:<\/p>\n<p>\u010clov\u011bk p\u0159isuzuje druh\u00fdm \u0161patn\u00e9 \u00famysly: jak dob\u0159e v\u00edme, je velmi t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 pochopit, jak\u00e9 jsou opravdov\u00e9 motivace, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1s nut\u00ed jednat, proto\u017ee jsou \u010dasto umn\u011b ukryt\u00e9 v na\u0161ich podv\u011bdom\u00fdch obrann\u00fdch taktik\u00e1ch. A p\u0159esto n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed lid\u00e9 dok\u00e1\u017e\u00ed odhalit motivace t\u011bch druh\u00fdch. Pochopiteln\u011b v\u017edy ty negativn\u00ed. Jejich \u201eodhalen\u00ed\u201c ve skute\u010dnosti nen\u00ed ovocem pracn\u00e9 anal\u00fdzy, ale instinktivn\u00edm p\u0159isuzov\u00e1n\u00edm n\u011b\u010deho z vlastn\u00edho j\u00e1 t\u011bm druh\u00fdm, n\u011b\u010deho, co v sob\u011b jen nejasn\u011b c\u00edt\u00ed. Jin\u00fdmi slovy: kdo je egoistou \u2013 zvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b, kdy\u017e nev\u00ed, \u017ee j\u00edm je -, si vykl\u00e1d\u00e1 chov\u00e1n\u00ed druh\u00fdch jako egoistick\u00e9. Proto jsou tyto zlomysln\u00e9 interpretace mnohdy z\u00e1ludn\u00e9 a origin\u00e1ln\u00ed: mohl si je vymyslet jen ten, kdo se ve sv\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b chov\u00e1 pr\u00e1v\u011b takov\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem, jen ten, kdo je expertem v tomto oboru. Jeho negativn\u00ed posuzov\u00e1n\u00ed druh\u00fdch je tedy v\u00fdlevem, v\u00fdrazem n\u011b\u010deho \u0161patn\u00e9ho, co je uvnit\u0159. Je to vlastn\u011b osvobozuj\u00edc\u00ed katarze, kter\u00e1 v\u0161ak prozrazuje, co m\u00e1 \u010dlov\u011bk v srdci. Na z\u00e1klad\u011b tohoto principu tedy m\u016f\u017eeme \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee za o\u0161kliv\u00fdmi, opakovan\u00fdmi interpretacemi jedn\u00e1n\u00ed druh\u00fdch lid\u00ed se ukr\u00fdvaj\u00ed vlastn\u00ed nezralosti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A. Cencini Naz\u00fdvali je whipping boys. \u017dili v minul\u00fdch stolet\u00edch na dvorech anglick\u00fdch kr\u00e1l\u016f. Pat\u0159ili k neju\u017e\u0161\u00edmu doprovodu kr\u00e1lova syna a m\u011bli i tento podivn\u00fd \u00fakol: kdykoli princ u\u010dinil n\u011bjak\u00fd proh\u0159e\u0161ek, byli trest\u00e1ni ranami bi\u010dem m\u00edsto n\u011bho. Tak byla vina n\u011bjak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem odpyk\u00e1na. V\u011bc, kter\u00e1 se mohla st\u00e1t snad jen v d\u0159\u00edv\u011bj\u0161\u00edch dob\u00e1ch, absurdn\u00ed a [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/856"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=856"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/856\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4709,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/856\/revisions\/4709"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=856"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=856"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cestanahoru.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=856"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}